One great way to grow your esteem for others is to realize that their challenges might be very different from yours. What’s simple for you to do might require great effort on their part and vice-versa. If you change your mindset and focus from your own experience to a non-prejudiced view of other people, you will be able to see into what it means to them to do what they are doing, say what they are saying, act like they are acting. If you want to build otheresteem in this way, take the opportunity to call it like you see it.
Openly recognize effort in others. See the path they are on, not only the results they are reaping.
People might be suprised at your insights and feel valued in a different way when you begin to share with them what you see. It is the biggest challenge of all to get over ourselves just enough to see the others clearly, to imagine what things are like from their experience, to display empathy and practice appreciation in this way. Remember this practice is not about pretending to be interested in the other, it is about building your own ability to value people. Look closer, listen deeper, revisit your preconceived notions and you might find you like finding what the biggest challenge may be for that particular person. Try it, and see where it leads you!
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