Otheresteem for Leaders

Last week I had the great opportunity of attending Leaderpalooza! So many valuable people were there! Some that I have admired and appreciated for some time now, and some new to me and great to meet. A lot of what we were discussing, related to Character-based Leadership had to do with the notion that a great leader values people consistently! How else can a leader build more leaders if not by taking otheresteem from practice to art? So today, I want to explore a few ideas fitting for leaders of any sort, in any context. And yes, that means you! I know that some of you will question whether everyone is a leader (and we could definitely get into that someday), but consider this: if nothing else, be a leader at otheresteem and see where it takes you.

Here are a few practices true leaders engage in:

Upmost respect for their fellow human. Disrespect and mistreatment of others are not a part of leadership: not a necessary evil, and not a desireable trait. Leaders that understand this have a strong conviction that dignity is always to be protected. That means that they are mindful of how they challenge others to perform, how they treat people that they are letting go, how they face difficulties, how they stand up for what they believe in and how they confront bad behavior.

Actively appreciating people near and far to their core work. Leaders that go out of their way to thank people and make it a point of appreciating the things that people put in daily to their cause generate an honest, committed  and sincere following.

Expecting the best is exciting instead of coercive. Great leaders will expect the very highest of standards from others and themselves. They will see people as the potential they possess and entice them to reach their highest goals. They expect nothing less of people, but do so in a way that is consistent with their belief that it is others that will materialize their vision. When faced with shortcomings, they will take them as learning experiences on the path to greatness, and they will show others to do the same.

Deep Gratitude. Great leaders are grateful every day, every hour, every minute for the people around them and the opportunity to build things together. They know in their heart that nothing would be possible without their relationship to them. They treasure it and understand the power it brings to be shared and sacred.

That’s the spin I have seen leaders take to the four practices. I have witnessed each of these in admirable people I have had the privilege of knowing through my work and my life. What about you? Do you know leaders that experience others like this? Did I miss anything? I would love to hear your comments on this one!

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  • http://www.workengagement.com Michael Leiter

    Excellent post.
    Leading is all about relationships and great leadership maintains the highest level of respect and appreciation. People not only look for those qualities in their personal connection to leaders but also look to leaders to promote those qualities throughout a team.

  • http://www.e-quidam.com/theblog Monica Diaz

    Thank you, Michael! Glad you enjoyed the post and you are right! We do look to leaders to promote these qualities in others. Leaders like you! 😉

  • http://www.relationalcoaching.com Lisa Merlo-Booth

    What a great post. You captured the true essence of a great leader–beginning with a strong conviction that dignity is always to be protected. Well done.

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  • ava diamond (@feistywoman)

    Wonderful post, Monica.

    I have a speech that I do called “The Heart and Soul of Leadership.” Often people come to the session curious about the relationship between the heart and soul—and leadership. They’ve never put that all together. They think of leadership as something you do, rather than a way of being that integrates the best of who they are with service to other people.

    I love the four practices you outlined. So sorry I missed you guys at LeaderPalooza. I hope to join you all next year!

  • http://leadchangegrup.com Mike Henry


    Thanks for the great post. I remember what you said at the conference as well; “Great leaders value people as a matter of practice.” When we value others we free them up to do their best. Failing to value them just makes performance harder.

    It was great to meet you and work together this past weekend. I appreciate your passion and am glad to be working with you as we attempt to instigate a movement. :-)


  • http://randomactsofleadership.com Susan Mazza

    Wonderful integration of the conversations at LeaderPalooza with the art and practice of otheresteem!

    I particularly appreciate your distinction of “expecting the best” coming from a context of potential rather than a self serving or coercive motivation.

    In reading what you wrote I am reminded that the focus of “true” leadership is being of service to a commitment larger than ourselves and being of service to the people who share that commitment with us.

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