If there is one relationship where otheresteem practices work wonders it is in the one on one, romantic involvement of a couple. I have been married for 20 years now and happily so. No, its not all rosy all the time, but all in all, it is very enjoyable. I believe the crucial part is that I feel accepted and valued by my partner, even during the tough times. Not that I don’t sometime want to wring his neck (figuratively speaking, of course) and he, mine I am sure; but otheresteem is strong for us. The trick is how to make it evident. Every single day, one of the practices or more than one, make their way into our conversations with eachother. What do I appreciate in him? Have I accepted that aspect of him that I find so different from how I imagine it should be? What am I grateful for? How do I face this difficulty by expecting the best from him? Just asking myself those questions puts me in a different place. One of building a lasting, rewarding relationship together! And THAT is a lifetime adventure!
P.S. I LOVE HIM! (Can you tell?)
