Otheresteem for Leaders

Last week I had the great opportunity of attending Leaderpalooza! So many valuable people were there! Some that I have admired and appreciated for some time now, and some new to me and great to meet. A lot of what we were discussing, related to Character-based Leadership had to do with the notion that a great leader values people consistently! How else can a leader build more leaders if not by taking otheresteem from practice to art? So today, I want to explore a few ideas fitting for leaders of any sort, in any context. And yes, that means you! I know that some of you will question whether everyone is a leader (and we could definitely get into that someday), but consider this: if nothing else, be a leader at otheresteem and see where it takes you.

Here are a few practices true leaders engage in:

Upmost respect for their fellow human. Disrespect and mistreatment of others are not a part of leadership: not a necessary evil, and not a desireable trait. Leaders that understand this have a strong conviction that dignity is always to be protected. That means that they are mindful of how they challenge others to perform, how they treat people that they are letting go, how they face difficulties, how they stand up for what they believe in and how they confront bad behavior.

Actively appreciating people near and far to their core work. Leaders that go out of their way to thank people and make it a point of appreciating the things that people put in daily to their cause generate an honest, committed  and sincere following.

Expecting the best is exciting instead of coercive. Great leaders will expect the very highest of standards from others and themselves. They will see people as the potential they possess and entice them to reach their highest goals. They expect nothing less of people, but do so in a way that is consistent with their belief that it is others that will materialize their vision. When faced with shortcomings, they will take them as learning experiences on the path to greatness, and they will show others to do the same.

Deep Gratitude. Great leaders are grateful every day, every hour, every minute for the people around them and the opportunity to build things together. They know in their heart that nothing would be possible without their relationship to them. They treasure it and understand the power it brings to be shared and sacred.

That’s the spin I have seen leaders take to the four practices. I have witnessed each of these in admirable people I have had the privilege of knowing through my work and my life. What about you? Do you know leaders that experience others like this? Did I miss anything? I would love to hear your comments on this one!

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Being the Connector

One way you can show your esteem for others is by introducing them to  people they might find interesting or valuable. Make it a point to go out of your way to do that at least once a week. I love to have dinner parties where the people I invite do not know each other but I know they have common interests or might otherwise enjoy each other’s company.

Its good business too to get your contacts together if they can mutually benefit from the interaction. Don’t think about what you will gain from this, think of it as an exercise in building your otheresteem.  Invest some of your time and energy!  People will appreciate the thoughtfulness and you will create a relationship in which being of service to each other is part of the equation.  Don’t keep score, just keep aware of how the practice impacts you and your work relations.

Last year, we introduced two friends from different circles at my husband’s birthday party. They got along immediately and talked all day. This year, one is helping the other’s son get going in a difficult industry. Knowing that just makes me smile! Being useful to the people you value will create great interactions for you and them! Pay it forward that way and watch what happens.

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